Cats and Dominance: The Alpha Syndrome (How to deal with a dominant cat)

Dominance is a behavioral pattern that is present in most animal hierarchies. It is in our nature to form a pecking order, as the rules of survival state that the most dominant animals in the group get access to the most resources.

If you own(ed) multiple cats at the same time, you’ve likely seen them form a hierarchy too! The most confident cats will always attempt to secure more resources for themselves by establishing dominance over more submissive ones, which can lead to all sorts of unpleasant behaviors. How do you deal with that?

The warning signs

While dominance is a very primal instinct that’s present from birth (think of kittens fighting for mommy’s milk), it doesn’t become apparent as a character trait until cats reach physical and mental adulthood. This takes about 2 years for most breeds, but the largest breeds such as Maine Coon can take longer.

Around this time of transitioning into adulthood, the now-adult cat will start to push all sorts of boundaries in an effort to see what they can get away with. This is a primal urge, and a way for animals to discover their place in the family hierarchy.

While testing boundaries is not necessarily problematic, nor cause for immediate concern, it is during this time that a cat with a dominant personality will start to become extremely bossy. You would do well to keep a close eye on this, as overly dominant cat behavior can have a negative effect on both the physical and mental state of other family members.

If left unchecked, a dominant cat will provoke fear and anxiety among more submissive members of the family

The sooner you spot a cat that’s trying to dominate other pets or family members, the easier it will be to correct such behavior. So what are the most important signs of a dominant cat? Be on the lookout for the following:

  • Spraying urine to cover territory that doesn’t belong to them
  • Stealing toys from other pets
  • Rubbing their scent on items that don’t belong to them (which is a form of claiming)
  • Taking over places to sleep in
  • Ignore other pets and/or become jealous when they get more attention
  • Nudging other cats away from the bowl while eating
  • Hissing, growling, threatening or outright attacking other cats without provocation
  • Demanding food, attention, or games on their own schedule
  • May even become extra aggressive towards cats that are sick or showing signs of weakness

What to do about it?

Ah, the million-dollar question! Changing dominant behavior will definitely require some conscious effort on your part. The name of the game is positive reinforcement, which essentially means you have to shape the desired behavior by only rewarding positive actions, and ignoring everything else.

This sounds easy, but it’s not. You may be inclined to punish bad behavior instead, but this will likely not lead to the results you’re seeking. A more effective approach is to show a cat with a dominant streak in a polite manner that boundaries are not to be crossed. For this, you’ll need a healthy dose of patience.

Tip: Certain breeds are more likely to be dominated than others. Ragdolls, for example, are inherently complacent and will often have trouble sticking up for themselves.


So, how to go about setting boundaries? Here are some examples: When you catch Mr. or Ms. Bossy being aggressive towards other animals in the family, immediately pull them apart. If you find him pestering you for food at night, don’t give in. Treats are only given out to compliment good behavior, such as sharing and leaving you alone to get a good nights’ sleep.

By doing these things consistently and frequently, you will send a clear signal to your bossy cat. That is often enough to promote a positive change. If not, you may be dealing with the bossiest of all: an alpha cat.

The Alpha Syndrome

At the most extreme level of dominance is an alpha cat. Whereas most cats are reasonably warm and friendly towards fellow pets and humans, the alpha is one with its own agenda. If you happen to own one (or perhaps more accurately, are owned by one!), you’ll quickly discover that they rarely take no for an answer.

An alpha will bully, scratch, and bite to get what they want. They are overprotective of resources like food, toys, and litter. They are rarely if ever willing to share. An alpha may occasionally sit on your lap and allow you to pet him, but this short moment of bliss will quickly pass once they grow tired of it and turn on you. In essence, this cat thinks that he can dictate the rules in the family.

Alphas are natural-born leaders that can be found among many other animal species. The reason they behave so selfishly is due to high levels of testosterone, the male sex hormone, which in effect makes them want to take control of every situation and refuse to take cues from anyone but themselves.

How to dominate an Alpha

If you want to change an Alpha cat’s behavior, you’ll find that the gentle approach is far less effective. You’ll have to show this cat that he is not the one who controls resources in the family.. You are! This does not warrant violence, but you need to be firm.

If you can successfully show an Alpha that he doesn’t get access to good things unless you allow it, all the drama and bossiness will eventually turn into respect. Here are a few ways to start asserting your dominance:

  • Make a list of situations that you know are trouble, and start avoiding them. For example, if a cat is biting your feet in the morning to force you out of bed, then lock them out of your room at night.
  • Be sure to feed an alpha at set times and do not deviate. Especially not when they demand it!
  • Do not respond to aggressive behavior with more violence, but simply put the alpha alone in another room for an hour.
  • Make it a hard rule to only give this cat treats and toys when they are on their best behavior (or if they have done something to earn it)

Changes in the hierarchy

Whenever a new cat is introduced into a family, everyone has to reassess their place in the hierarchy. This leads to stress, and conflicts may arise as a result. This is a natural social behavior that you find among humans too. You may witness the most dominant cat seeking out conflicts in an effort to establish dominance over the newcomer.

Tip: Siamese cats have a reputation for being one of the most aggressive breeds. They will easily become jealous towards other pets, and have particular trouble accepting newcomers.

While these conflicts may not be fun to watch, they are a part of normal animal behavior. The advice is to intervene only when conflicts become violent.


How to tell which cat is dominant?

Observe how your cats interact when they’re together. The one who gets the most respect and privileges from others is likely the most dominant cat of your family.

Why does my cat bite me during petting?

Most cats love being stroked by their owners because the sensation feels similar as when they were beeing groomed by their mothers during infancy. But cats also have a built-in survival mechanism that kicks in to prevent them from getting too comfortable. This duality can easily be observed as stress starts to build up during petting: sudden silence, stiffening, and sweeping of the tail are all signs that the stress is becoming too much. If you ignore these warnings, at some point your cat will feel too vulnerable and lash out as a result.

Why does my cat keep grooming my other cats?

Confident cats are known to frequently groom peers who are less certain of themselves, a phenomenon referred to as allogrooming. Since allogrooming is associated with lower rates of violent conflicts in wild cat colonies, It is believed that it is a more positive way of asserting dominance.

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