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How to Comfort a Dying Cat

All things have an end… an unfortunate reality that every pet owner will have to deal with at some point. When your cat is in its final days, it’s only natural that you start looking for ways to provide some comfort in those last moments. What can you do to ease the suffering?

A trip to the vet

It’s understandable that you want to do everything you can to make your sick cat is as comfortable as it can be at home. But first, consider paying a visit to your vet. Dying cats are often in pain. Since veterinarians can prescribe some very effective painkillers, they can be of tremendous help in alleviating some of that pain.

Whilst we have a lot laid out for you in this article, your vet may also be able to provide you with some general tips and help prepare for things you’ll have to deal with in the coming days and weeks, such as incontinence and a loss of appetite.

Additional reading: Looking for a new veterinarian? Our vet Joanna shares a few tips on how to find the right one

Loss of appetite

Cats that are towards the end of their life may lose all interest in food. One of the ways to take care of a dying cat is through force-feeding. If this sounds cruel or unhelpful, try to think of it as a way to help your kitty be less hungry.

You can force-feed either with your bare hands, or by using a syringe. A bland diet might be a good choice for sick cats: things such as baby food or some soft-boiled chicken are easy to chew, swallow and digest.

If you can’t get bland foods, another possibility is to throw a regular meal into a blender or food processor with some water added. The resulting mix is a lot easier to swallow and digest. Since most cats don’t drink enough, this will also help your sick kitty stay hydrated.

Grooming & hygiene

If your sick cat becomes incontinent, it’s important to provide it with a clean bed at least once, but preferably several times a day. We recommend using something soft and comfortable, like Chewy’s orthopedic pillow with removeable cover. Alternatively, you can also use some extra soft towels. You’ll have to throw these into the washing machine often to wash out any bad odors.

Grooming
Your cat is probably not a massive fan of water (unless you own a Maine Coon or a Bengal), but it is important to wash any urine out of the coat to prevent infections. When you make a clean bed, be sure to wash your cat’s belly and sides with a mixture of lukewarm water and a few drops of pet shampoo (do make sure it’s vet recommended shampoo, like this one). Also, be sure to check for mats in the coat and brush them out.

If your cat is too uncomfortable with this procedure, it may help if you speak some soft affirmations in a gentle tone of voice. If that fails as well, ask your vet to provide you with some special diapers for sick cats.

A quiet place

Cats have a natural inclination to remain solitary whenever they are in pain. Take note of the fact that a severely sick or dying cat is, therefore, more comfortable when no other people or animals are around.

Biologists believe the reason for this voluntary confinement is to be found in evolution. Out in the wild, cats face numerous threats from predators looking for a chance to invade their territory. A wounded animal makes for an obvious target, so to a cat’s mind, it can’t afford to show any signs of struggle or weakness to others.

Tip: While sick cats need a lot of space, you should still make it a habit to check up on them frequently!

Eliminate noise

To accommodate a dying cat’s wish for silence, be sure to put it in a quiet area in the house. An ideal place is one where your cat can’t be disturbed by children or other pets.

Sick cats are most comfortable when they are left alone. But do make a habit of checking up on them frequently!

Temperature

Sick cats will often be unable to maintain an appropriate body temperature, so double-check that the room is warm enough. You should make sure that the area is at least 68 F (or 20 C) throughout the day. Installing a small heater could prove useful if your room is on the chilly side during this time of year. Don’t place the heater right next to your cat, though, as that could promote dehydration!

Additional reading: 5 tips to help a dehydrated cat drink & pee more often

Food and other resources

When it comes to needs, dying cats are best granted easy access to their key resources:

  • Food
  • Fresh water
  • Fresh litter

Wet or dry food?
Wet food is often more palatable and easier to digest. If your cat always eats dry kibble, you can try to mix a little wet food into their meal and see what the response is.

Straight line
A sick cat may struggle to get up, so make sure that all the vital resources can be reached easily and are within eyesight. Water, food, and the litter box should all be accessible without having to maneuver around obstructions.

No competition
Cats experience stress when having to compete over their resources. If you have other pets around the house, it’s probably a good idea to close off the room in order to prevent them from coming in and eating or drinking from the bowls, or using the same litter box.

If you own multiple cats, make sure they can not reach the sick cat’s resources. Cats become stressed when having to compete over things like food and water.

Words of comfort

One thing that many cats find difficult is to show you that they want affection. We humans can use our words and our body language to show others that we feel down, but cats are not nearly as expressive. So there’s a good chance that you may have to take the initiative here and offer some words of comfort yourself.

Since most people don’t know how to comfort a sick cat, here’s an idea to set you in the right direction: try to imagine how you would like to be treated when you are in pain. Your cat probably wants the same things! You can help it be more at ease by spending time with it, and by gently stroking and talking to it.

Cats may not understand your words, but they can definitely pick up on the emotions that are reflected in them!

When it’s time to let go

Even with the best possible care, a terminally ill cat will eventually pass away. If you visit a veterinarian (which we always recommend when a cat is ill), he or she will probably want to evaluate the cat’s overall health frequently.

Difficult as it may be, you should definitely skip your own judgment and leave this to a vet. Even with your best intentions, you can’t make these kinds of evaluations on your own.

The vet may conclude that there are more good days yet ahead. But if your cat has stopped eating completely, or has developed serious respiratory issues, it’s probably best to let go.

And then.. ?

You lost a dear friend. A companion who was always waiting for you after a long day at work. Perhaps your cat even cuddled with you on the couch every day. It’s perfectly normal to go through a period of grief after losing a beloved pet. Some people even experience harsh feelings of guilt after having to make the decision to have their sick pet euthanized.

You should allow yourself the time to process these emotions. If you have supportive friends or family, be sure to lean on them for emotional support or a listening ear.

Decide what to do with the body

After a cat has passed, you will need to decide what to do with the remains. Some people choose to bury their cat themselves, but you can also enlist a burial service at the pet cemetery. It’s expensive, but will give you a nice private place to visit and remember your friend.

The other option is cremation. While it does not leave a place to visit, cremation allows you to do something memorable with the ashes. For example, you could buy a beautiful urn to store them in, or have a piece of jewelry made with them. Some people even get a tattoo that contains their pet’s ashes.

Frequently asked questions

Should I leave my dying cat alone?

A dying cat wants space, but it should not be left to suffer. Sick cats need to be looked at by a veterinarian first, to see if painkillers or other medications are required. The steps in this article are meant to make your cat as comfortable as possible at home, so follow them and do make a habit of checking up on your cat frequently!

3 comments

  1. Thank you so much for your clear advice.

    My heart is breaking as I accompany my dearest friend in his final days.

    I definitely recommend the kind words you can say to your pet. And to be present. I put my head against my good-natured Licorice Cat and he purred. He hasn’t eaten for 10 days but has had some water.

    He has brought me so much joy over the past 16 years. I hope to ease his suffering. He deserves it so much, but it’s not easy.

    1. Sweet Lady, my cat too, is on his last days. Goo goo is eating very bland canned dogwood, and drinking a little, but not very much of either. His breathing is labored, and little kitty only moves when he has to. I put him on a soft, folded blanket in the hallway and am checking on him hourly to give him cheek strokes. I’m in pain, wondering if I should finally have him put down today. My Goo goo is 20 years old. My heart aches for you, I know the pain you feel, I’m trying hard to mot keep crying. Take care dear.

    2. My cat is now going through the same thing 😭😭😭 I am just praying that she gets better and makes it another year… Just wondering, did your cat survive out of this or didn’t?

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